I came to Elizabeth City, on Friday, after school with high hopes, of all sorts. The drive was really beautiful. The three rivers, I cross were full of shining blue water. I thought of the poem “Song of Hiawatha” as I went along. The day was mild and the forecast was that this would continue for a few days. I expected this would mean a few strolls around the village with Lyla and Brynn over the weekend.
I expected we would all go to Miss Claudias’ shortly after I arrived. She and I had a project to work on, after all. . . one I devised and she was ready to rush headlong in to! We had talked about it at the beginning of the week. The doctors said, Miss Claudia had but a few months left. The news had been crushing, but Miss Claudia kept us all lifted by her example. She did not complain but instead went on about her business.
Will was spending nights with his mom, so I thought to stay with Jenny and the little girls, would be helpful. I was already working on a long term plan. Christian said he would stay, when I couldn’t.
Will drove up just a few minutes after I did. Miss Claudia was sleeping, so it looked like I would see her the next day.
On Saturday, Will came in for breakfast. Miss Claudia was not yet up. Jenny and I thought we could take lunch over, but Miss Claudia was not yet up at noon. I was concerned, but pushed it aside. By around three, Jenny called the hospice nurse. The nurse came and my worse fear was confirmed -Miss Claudia died early on Sunday morning. She just went to sleep and peacefully drifted away from us, and so very gently, like a sparrow, bound for home.
We are all in a state of shock. Of course, we are all heartbroken. It seems like we are all in a horrid daze. Will, was shaken as I have never seen him . Lyla said her “Cici” had become an angel, but she “could not understand, why she had to do it now.”
The last few days already seem a blur. There is so much business to be taken care of with a death. The first time, I went to her house, was awful She wasn’t there and the whole thing seemed shocking all over again. We were all busy and exhausted, so that when a brief lull occurred, . . . I was sorry, for the hurt welled up inside, reviving the tragedy all over again.
One day the weather was especially. mild. Will was tending to all sorts of arrangements and details. Jenny was doing paperwork and I decided to take Brynn for a stroll. It could have been a day in April. Birds were singing and in the distance, I heard a tractor. I felt homesick, for lack of a better word, for everyone and for happy times. I know we are told repeatedly, to “live in the moment”, but this does not mean we must abandon all memories and so on this day, I indulged myself, til I was quite filled with melancholy.
It makes no difference the circumstances, loss is hard and may be the worst burden this life offers. We miss our loved ones, pure and simply put. Certainly, we are all glad that Miss Claudia was spared further suffering – we are all glad her passing was peaceful, but that does not bar us from the painful, deep ache of losing her.
The one time, that Miss Claudia cried about the whole affair, was because, she wouldn’t see Lyla and Brynn grow up and that Brynn wouldn’t even know her. Now that, still makes me weep. . .hence, ” our project” was born. I thought to create a journal , to tell Miss Claudias’ “story and she was every bit as excited, as I was. It was one of the last things we talked about. Rest assured, the project will go on, for the dear sister, “Julia” also known as “Aunt J” has agreed to help me.
I drove home on Wednesday under the same fair conditions, of the last few days. The service for Miss Claudia is on Saturday, and a lot of things had been taken care of, but how I wished I could have done more. To see the young shoulders of Will, bearing such grief and my Jenny caring for the children in the midst of it all, caused me to want to turn around and race back to the rescue. It felt so odd to just return to the routine of my life, as if something significant had not occurred.
When my grandmother died, I was annoyed that the world just went about its’ merry way, as if it didn’t matter that we lost a beautiful light, which seemed to drastically dim the planet. That very night, a full moon rose and shined like all was well and I couldn’t understand how Thanksgiving came anyway, when Uncle Randy had just died.
I know full well, this may be peculiar thinking, but such thoughts do pop in my head. . . much, like the wild dandelions, that spring up without fair warning.
So sorry to hear about your family’s loss!
It happened so sudden! Perhaps Miss Claudia wanted it this way, silently and gently, as you said “just went to sleep and peacefully drifted away from us, and so very gently, like a sparrow, bound for home”.
The greatest blessing is that she was able to do so without suffering and pain which is very comforting.
However, still no matter how, when a loved one leaves us, the grief and sorrow are very profound and leave us always with a deep sense of emptiness… I felt like you Michele when my mom passed away.. I was also “annoyed” to see that the “world just went about its’ merry way, as if it didn’t matter that we lost a beautiful light, which seemed to drastically dim the planet” as you so perfectly described…
The nature of Life and death, while some celebrate a wedding or a birth, someone in the world cries the loss of a loved one… One more angel has returned home…
It is beautiful that you will help keep her memory alive for her grandchildren to get to know her, as you take on the project creating a journal of her story! My deepest sympathy, love and prayers for you and the family! ❤ Amira
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what comfort I take in your comment. You said it all so beautifully-It is no wonder to me for you have a deep sense of compassion. Thank you friend-love Michele
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So very sorry for your loss. You wrote about her beautifully. Thanking God Ms Claudia drifted off peacefully to be in the presence of the Lord. But for a time, it does not soothe the soul of her loved ones. Their absence is heart wrenching and fills a body with an aching and a yearning to see them just once more. We are never ready for the losses we must bare here. Prayers lifted for strength, comfort and a peace within for all of you as you give her to the Lord, until you meet again.❤
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thank you Sandy=what a blessing you remain to me-such a beautiful heart you have. God bless you, love Michele
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I am so sorry Michele. Ms Claudia surely has left a big gap in all your lives. However, I am glad she had such a peaceful passing and that your project will continue. Sending hugs across the ocean. xx
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thank you dear and you are so right about “the gap”, for that is just how it feels. Thank you so much for your very kind words. love Michele
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So sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers to comfort you are on the way.
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thank you-and this is so very appreciated
love Michele
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Michele, Im so sorry for your family’s great loss. Ms Claudia is indeed an angel now, but the loss is great for all of you. Sending you hugs to comfort and soothe. 💕
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thank you for such comforting words. love Michele
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A very big loss for your family. I am so sorry. Hearts will be heavy for a very long time, but, as I once heard, “To be mourned is to be loved.” And Miss Claudia was certainly loved.
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what truth. thank you my friend love Michele
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Oh how blessed you all are to have had her in your lives. And what a blessing to her to pass from here to there without a wimper .If only we could all pass so simply. Your grands will always have her because she was such apart of you.You will make the journal and it will be a keeper. Love you
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my dear Beverly, you never fail to comfort me. I think of you so very often. . .always fondly. love Michele
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Michelle, I am so sorry for your loss. How hard it must be on you all, yes, we may know they are at peace but that doesn’t always ease the pain of missing them. What a wonderful project/gift you will be doing so her grandkids can remember and get to know her. It’s funny, I remember feeling the exact way you mentioned when my own grandmother died…I simply could not believe the world went on as always when my world had just crumbled. I will be praying for you and your family, Will especially. God bless and many hugs.
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Thank you Jen. I am still in shock and I miss her terribly. She loved her family so deeply that they simply must know it-hence the journal. Loss is hard and hurts deeply. Your prayers are so appreciated. love Michele
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Aww. Michele, praying for your family. ❤
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Michele, so very sorry for your loss. You have spoken here so often & so warmly of Miss Claudia. She sounds like a very special lady, friend, mother, sister & precious grandmother all bundled in a well-loved & loving life. Please know that Will, Jenny & your families are in my prayers. May the legacy of Miss Claudia’s life & love live on in your hearts. 🌷🙏🌟🙏🌷
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you said it well and with such compassion. thank you so much-love Michele
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I am so sorry to hear about Miss Claudia, for I had come to love her, too. My heart is heavy for all who mourn her. I will be praying for you and your family.
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thank you Sweet Anne and it makes me so glad to know that you loved her too. love Michele
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I loved Miss Claudia through your heart.
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Ecclesiastes 3:4 4a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.
Do your mourning, Michele. I think it is good for a person to mourn fully so the good memories are what is left.
My prayers are with you and yours for this journey down a difficult road.
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I too believe in mourning-well, taking the time to do so. Gosh, I miss her. I am so very sad for Lyla and Brynn-and Will too. Thank you dear Faye. love Michele
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I’m so sorry for your loss, Michele! Especially since it came so much quicker than you had anticipated, so there is the shock as well as the grief. You and your whole family will be in my prayers!
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thank you Ann-I am still in shock! Thank you so much for prayers, for that means everything-love Michele
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Words fail us at this time.
Know our hearts are kindred.
May peace seek out your family, and hold them closely.
Scott
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thank you Scott, Just knowing there is a kindred spirit in you is of such comfort. your friend and fan, Michele
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What a lovely tribute to her and to your family as a whole, Jenny. You are very wealthy with the best gifts life brings us and it is wonderful that all your relationships with them were so full and so excellent. You come from beautiful stock! Hugs and blessings, Anne
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Dear Anne, this made my day and right when I needed it too! thank you and know you made a difference in my heart-love Michele
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I’m crying as I write this to you, Michele. God help me, I know and understand exactly what you are going through right now. Oh yes I too believe the hardest time we have on this earth is when someone we Love with all of our Hearts is taken from us. I too am walking around in a daze still in shock. Some of my cats are not faring well and I must feed them by hand and give them herbs and pain medication to soothe their grief. We just lost our Max and we just were getting back on solid ground. And now Cuddles who died unexpectedly, suddenly, and in agony. Truly truly I am so so sorry for your loss of Miss Claudia. May the Angels bring you comfort as your tears fall. (((HUGS)))!!!
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you precious dear-I read your posts and knew you have had so much loss. It was hard reading about dear Cuddles-but look at all you did. I hope you take comfort in that. May God bless and strengthen you-and thank you for your kind words, full of compassion. love Michele
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Much Love to you in return, Michele. You as well are in my Heart and prayers. 🦋
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So sorry for your loss.
Praying for all
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thank you Debra. Prayers mean everything -love Michele
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Death is always sad, whether it’s expected or unexpected. I’m so sorry to hear about Miss Claudia. I pray I go to heaven in the same fashion as she did. ❤️
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Oh, Michele, I am very sorry to read about Miss Claudia’s passing. While undoubtedly she will always live in your heart, she is also immortalized in the pages of your blog, her gentle character sketched lovingly for the rest of us by your beautiful words.
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I’m very sorry for your loss ,post after post miss Claudia became one of us.Much love on your way dear💗
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you are just precious-thank you so much love Michele
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Peace, peace and more peace to you and your family. I was so sorry to read Miss Claudia has passed. I am so glad you are making a journal of her life for her grandchildren. Peggy
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thank you dear Peggy! love Michele
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It’s like that for all of us. When my husband died, I was angry at everyone because they weren’t experiencing the depths of grief that I was. They just kept on moving and he had stopped.
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